Words, they say, are powerful. You might be wondering why on earth someone will want to show you how to kill an innocent child in the classroom. Yet still, why will someone even want to take the life of a child.
Parenting, to some in this era, is all about fathering a child or conceiving and giving birth to a child. Whether foster or biological, a closer examination proves it doesn’t end there. In actual fact, parenting is a matter of “till death do us part”; and the journey in between birth or adoption of child and death of either parent or child entails a lot. It spans from concrete provisions such as food, clothing and shelter to abstract provisions such as teaching mother tongue, teaching values and general mentoring. Unfortunately, some parents tend to focus on the physical paying little or no attention to the abstract.
Today, while respect for adults is absent in some homes, sentences as simple as “Thank you” and “I’m sorry” cannot be found in others. A common scene of this sort of upbringing is when parents or guardians begin to discuss others negatively in the presence of their wards due to some disagreement or just mere slandering. The worst form of this, which obviously affects children in the classroom without parents recognizing it is talking about a child’s teacher before the child.
Displeasure about the conduct of any educator of your child should be expressed for necessary concerns to be addressed. However, doing it in the presence of your child doesn’t solve any issue; in fact, it causes more harm than good.
Out of the numerous negative effects of using derogatory remarks against your child’s educator, I wish to highlight one.
No matter what a parent is to a child, that child sees his or her educator as the most trusted and genuine source of information. This is why a child can dispute with a parent over an assignment from school even if the teacher erred. You may hear remarks like: “because my teacher said so!”, “no, no, that’s not how Sir taught us in class! during such debates at home. With such high esteem and trust for the teacher, the moment you begin to pass disparaging remarks about the teacher, you can be sure you are corrupting your child’s mind against that teacher. The next time he or she sees that teacher, there’s a rapid playback of all you said: ranging from physical insults to discrediting comments. At this juncture, the child gets disoriented thinking about all that has been said about this man or woman standing in front of the class. He or she only spends the time looking at the teacher in the eyeglass of your remarks.
This should never surprise you because a similar thing happens when you talk positively about a teacher to your child; his or her trust in that teacher is boosted.
I have encountered several of such cases over the years both inside and outside the classroom. While some children give away their parents in some cases, some try not to say the exact words. In other cases, some children repeat the very words of their parents and you can imagine the devastating effects of such circumstances.
Has it ever occurred to you that some issues you have failed to address at home can actually be addressed through the instrumentality of your child’s teacher? Rather than creating a cavity between yourself and your child’s educator due to a past mistake, settle issues the right way and team up to raise that future leader.